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Wednesday, May 21, 2008

Yep, too good to be true.

Well guys, it didn't happen. Brad took a day off of work and we drove down to Atlanta, and still did not get our fingerprints done. We got to the U*SC*IS application office around 11:00 this morning. We were encouraged because the parking lot appeared empty, and we didn't see many people outside. However, once inside my gut feelings were confirmed. We went to the desk and explained our situation and that we had called the 1-800 number ON THE FORM THEY SENT and that we were instructed to come on a Wednesday. This was our reply (and, I'm not joking, pretty much verbatim,) "yeah, they don't give the right information out. Walk-ins can come any day, not just Wednesday; but they can only come at 2:30 (remember it was 11:00) and there is no guarantee you will get in, but if you don't you can reschedule."

So, what choice did we have? We were already there. So, we went to get something to eat and shopped for a while, and then went back to the office in hopes of being seen. We got back at 2:30 and by this time, a line had formed outside. The man we spoke to earlier came out after a while and pretty much told us (and the others) that we would not be seen, so we opted to reschedule. In order to do so, we had to make a copy of the invitation that we had received in the mail and brought with us. Apparently, there are no copiers in the office, so we had to leave and drive down the street to a Publix to make the copies, and then go back to the office.(Am I the only one that thinks that is insane?) I assumed (crazy me) that we would get an actual date and time when we went back, but instead, he just took our forms and said that a new invitation would come in the mail. I (very politely) asked him why, if they know the 800 number gives incorrect information, do they include it; and I went on to explain that we live an hour and a half away. He apologized and said that the 800 number is not for that particular processing office, and they are given generic responses to give out; which may be true for some offices, just not all (NICE). He then goes on to say that if we do not get anything in the mail (I changed our address on the form) within one month to come back, and show them the copy. I said, "So if we don't hear anything and we come back next month, will they do our fingerprints?" Are ya'll ready for this.......His reply (and I quote) "Definitely maybe." Are you kidding me? I laughed at this point, because there was nothing else to do. I mean, is this the best that a g*vernm*ent agency can offer us?....definitely maybe.

So, after all this, we did not get our fingerprints, and we do not have an appointment for them to be done in the future. Not only that, I can't even call or inquire further until it has been a month; and then, even then, it will require another trip to Atlanta with no guarantees. And, I just feel it necessary to say again that we've already been approved and done this whole fingerprinting process once. It still amazes me that our fingerprints "expire". I even took our original approval form with me.....it meant nothing.

Obviously, there is much to pray about. Obviously, my attitude is anything but positive. Obviously, it looks like there is no end in sight, and doubt and fear consume. God, may I ask, "Are you telling us something or is this Satan's handywork or is this just 'part of it'?" Lord, would you instruct us and teach us in the way we should go; will you counsel us and watch over us. (Psalm 32:8)

10 comments:

chelle belle said...

Grrrr!!! What's up with our government agencies is right! I seriously think they should only employ adoptive parents in all positions affecting pending adoptions! Bet things just might move along a little faster!

Perhaps you can consider this an OB appointment to a specialist in ATL and he wants to see you back in one month..... Naaaa, doesn't make it any better does it!

Did you at least get to do some fun shopping? IKEA, perhaps???? I'm so sorry it didn't happen today. That office is still fresh in my memory and I could visualize everything you talked about....

Until next month.... Keep hanging on!

Love you!
Chelle

Brad and Shana said...

We actually went to the new TJ Maxx right down the street, and then, went to Atlantic Station (all the shops near Ikea). We had a nice lunch at California Pizza and then went over to Target where I applied some 'retail therapy' and got a new skirt and 3 new shirts.

Brad & I did have a nice and pleasant day together despite the outcome.

You are SO right about employing adoptive parents...at the very least, customers would receive actual care and concern. I think the worst part is that it seems no one there really cares, and when something goes awry, there is really nothing to do but be at their mercy.

Thanks for your prayers

Maddie said...

Is there any part of our government that runs well??? That certainly convicts me to pray more for our leaders! Surely there are people out there who can figure out a better system! I wish I had some great words of wisdom. Unfortunately, your friend isn't a "wise" one. I do know that you had many confirmations in the decision to adopt sweet Malley. Those weren't for nothing. There must be some reason all of this is taking so long. Not that that makes it any easier. Hopefully when you get to the other "side" and Malley is in your arms, you can look back and some of this garbage will make a little sense. Know that we love you and are praying for you!

chelle belle said...

I really love, LOVE Target.... I know it's not what you were hoping to accomplish for the day; and even though it SEEMS nothing, in fact was accomplished, it IS a small step closer to sweet Malley coming home.

I looked at my Yahoo news this morning and they were estimating how many thousands of orphans were created after the earthquake in China.... Makes my heart so sad that so many have been waiting for so long, and now they have SO MANY MORE children in need....

Father, please bring sweet Malley Farmer home soon. Let her know that she is loved immeasurably, that she is wanted and welcomed here. Hold her in your arms Jesus. Comfort her heart Holy Spirit. We trust your timing of it all.....

((((HUGS)))) to you, Shana....

Cyndi Lou said...

Oh, Shana, my heart breaks for you! A day like that would have sent me over the edge!!!!!! I am so sorry for all you are enduring for your sweet Malley.

But, something comes to my mind right now. I know it is a little different, but stay with me. I can remember being angry and mad and resentful towards God and the whole 'process' when we couldn't seem to muster up a successful pregnancy. I knew that God wanted us to have a family, just like you know that God wants you to adopt Malley, but I couldn't understand why it kept happening and all I saw was one heart break after another.

Well, 8 or 9 years later, I can see that He meant for Anna Grace and Austin to be our 2 children! The others would have been different in some way or another. So, His timing was 3 years after mine and Joe's. I didn't like it one bit, but now that I see what treasures we have, I am so grateful for the exact children He gave us.

So, I say all of this to say that YOUR Malley Farmer may not even be here yet!! She may not be ready to be adopted yet. And God knows EXACTLY who your sweet Malley is and where she is right now. Though your heart is breaking after a week like this one (goverment agencies stink) I am confident that His treasure will be worth all that you are enduring now!!

When you look at sweet Malley's face, you will KNOW that she was made to be a FARMER from day 1!!!

When you are at your lowest point, rest in His timing and His love for all 5 of you!!!!

I am glad that we have the exact 2 that we have and I know that you will be, too, when you hold sweet Malley!!!

Love you,

Cyndi

Bridenstine4 said...

I wish there was something I could do or say to make it all better. I will be praying for our future little neighbor Malley.

Scooter said...

Shana,
Bless your heart! I am sorry I haven't kept more up to date on your progress. I wish I could offer some encouragement...here is my best try...
When we adopted Ellie I had to go to CIS 4 times before my fingerprints "took". Then, you know the problems I had with the FBI this time trying to get my fingerprints to pass - three tries. Apparantly some people don't fingerprint well and I am one of them (Scott says I missed my calling, I should have been a criminal). Anyway, the week we went to get our fingerprints done at CIS in Atlanta, the pharmacy (work)flooded. They are doing construction and cut a high pressure water pipe. It was a major flood. That entire week they had multiple, huge, dehumidifiers running. They kept telling us to drink plenty of water so we didn't dry out. I already stay dried out. I was a little panicked all week. The little Asian man that did my fingerprints confirmed with one look at my fingers "oh, these are bad". It is such a hassle and ordeal to take off from work, go to Atlanta, wait in line, etc. So I was looking for a silver lining, as I tend to do. The only thing I can figure is if it takes several tries to get my fingerprints done, then they have a later date on them and it will be longer before we have to do them again. Things in China aren't moving any faster. My understanding is that any updates to our paperwork on the China side will not be required by China until we are there. I have more, but the baby is starting to cry - time to eat. I will call you soon.
Angie

The Wild World of Richmond said...

Shana, oh I'm so sorry for your pain. I know that anything I say will seem insignificant. The very most and best I can do (I lack wisdom like your friend Tammy)is pray for you. AND you know what I'm going to put my kids on praying for that, too. Bryn continually prays for Ms. Carolyn's hands and has for years(seriously). She's the most persistent prayer warrior I know. If you ask her to pray for something then she DOES NOT forget it. Children's prayers are so full of faith.
Know that the Richmond's love all of the Farmer's(that are here and yet to come).
Terri

Mommyluann said...

Your saga sound alot like my friend Kellie's at www.busymamaof3.blogspot.com

She is in the air as I type to get her baby...so it did happen. Finerprints were a big hassle..they had their prints done but I guess there is an expiration on prints ( who knew?) The had to drive to Charlotte from Tennesee to get their prints done over!

I'm praying for you!

-brittany- said...

I know this has to be beyond frustrating for you guys!!! I can NOT imagine!!! Incessant prayers for you guys and I don't mean definitely maybe. I mean definitely YES!!!